He has made me cried. I have made him cried. He has made me laugh. I have made him laugh. He has slammed the door on me. I have slammed the door on him. He has said never again. I have said never again. He has promised never to do it again. I have promised never to do it again. He has done it again. I have done it again. He has given me his last. I have given him my last. He has met many crossed roads with me. I have come to many cross roads with him. Does this make us perfect, no, but it does make us perfect for each other!
You declared me as your wife since your junior year in high school and I declared I was not going to be your wife. I guess that proves, “life and death is really in the power of the tongue” because here we are 29 years later, husband and wife. The second part of that verse say, ” those that loves it will eat the fruit there of” I will have to conclude that the fruits your words produced had to have been good because we are stilling enjoying one another some twenty nine years now. The next verse of that Proverbs declares, “a man who findeth a wife findeth a good thing.” I’m not adding anything to the word but let me put my twist on it as it relates to us. In order to know good you have to be familiar with good, meaning you must first know what is good. Let me just say good calleth to good. You are good Raymond.
I declare as many others, he was created just for me. Before he was my lover or husband he was my biggest supporter. From the beginning he has pushed me to be all that I desired. I believed I fell in love with him from that moment on because he saw in me what I couldn’t see in myself. I had desires but I didn’t really believe I could do it. I tried to pursue my dreams but I could only think about this man who saw so much in me.
I tried to pursue my dreams early on but I wanted to be with him so bad even though he promised that some day we would be together. All I could do was to think about him. I fear not having him so much that yes, I deliberated did the old trick. I got pregnant but I knew with a certainty he would do right by me. I also knew that even if I hadn’t pulled the ole trick he we would eventually be married but I didn’t want to wait. When I became pregnant before marriage, Raymond being the “man” I knew he would be,sat down with my mother and declared he would not only take care of his child but me as well. As I am writing this I’m in tears because he surpassed his words. At the time my family didn’t have a car so whenever we had to go into town we had two choices either take the rural bus or do what we use to call it “catch a ride.” Not one day did I ever had to do any of that. He would leave his job regardless of the distance and travel to Huger to pick me up to get me to my appointments. I shared in HIS SUFFICIENT GRACE how I never really knew what it was like to have a lack. I can truly say there’s never been a time that I had to go without provisions. There’s never been a time that I had to do anything. His first priority has always been his family.
I remember him telling me after we were married, “he said honey just give me some time I will have you in your own house.” I can bear witness of his blood, sweat and tears in providing that for us. I remember days when my car would break down and when he came to pick me up, he was always so apologetic as if it was his fault. I stand humbled by the faithfulness of our God that has allowed Him to bless me with cars. I remember a time a family member asked me if I wasn’t embarrassed to ride in a beat up truck with my husband. I looked him in the face and said, “no I’m not. I’m not in love with the truck but I am in love with my husband. If this is all he has that’s fine as long as we have each other.” I bless God because our love was built on each other and not things.
We have weathered many storms together. We bore each others nakedness meaning we have seen each others at some low places but we have learned to cover one another in love. I am happy to say out of the twenty-nine years we have been married, we have never done so being separated. I remember one instance I was upset about a situation out of our control and I left to go back to my mother. Well let’s just say it didn’t work out because she sent me back home to my husband. I bless the Lord for the wisdom of my mother. She instilled strength and endurance in me.
Raymond has fulfilled so many promises and we have shared so many good times. I’m humbled by what God has allow us to experience together these last twenty-nine years. I have to say I’m excited about how I know He is going to surpass our expectation in what is to come. To God be the glory for three children and three grandchildren later, we are still in love and still make each other smile just seeing each other.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.Ephesians 5;22-33
This is our pray!